Posted by daisym on December 2, 2005, at 15:33:37
In reply to Re: see! we agree! » crushedout, posted by one woman cine on December 2, 2005, at 15:23:56
In talking to my therapist about this, he said he doesn't think therapist receive enough training on this, they are given lots of information about how to protect themselves from law suits and lots of information about not gratifying the client. He said after 5 years or so of practicing (aren't you glad they practice on us?!) usually one begins to really look for training on helping the client deal with the feelings and making it part of the therapy, not part of the pathology.
And he said that believe it or not, most clients never tell their therapist they are having such intense feelings. Not to imply that the therapist can't or shouldn't figure it out, they just don't bring it out into the open to talk about. He said it is often why people quit therapy, they can't stand those feelings and don't have any other way to process them. I read him Annie's post, among others, and he said he thinks she has a great therapist who is willing to say "I care about you." Again, not that most of them don't, they just aren't willing to say it.
He also reminded me that most people do not go to therapy as often as I do so they spend their time focused on the issues that brought them in, not the relationship. Did you know that the average person spends less than a year (in a row) in therapy with the same therapist?
btw, he said he was continually amazed at the articulate and respectful discussions we have here. He thinks it should be a training ground for new therapists.
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