Posted by Racer on December 1, 2005, at 13:02:04
In reply to Re: Why my DH won't do couple therapy » happyflower, posted by orchid on December 1, 2005, at 8:00:02
After ages of telling my husband we needed marriage counseling (MC), and being told that we didn't, I was at my wit's end.
I finally hit the right nerve: even if it was mostly MY problem, I still needed help in talking to him about it. That took nearly forever, and then some things happened externally that sent me way down the rabbit hole. In looking for a place for me to get counseling, we ended up finding a place for MC and he agreed to go.
I think the parts that helped were: telling him it was my problem talking to him; telling him I was afraid of losing him, and wanted the MC so that I wouldn't; and especially telling him that we could go two or three times, and if it was terrible, we could stop. I think I said "at least three times," but don't remember. The big one, though, was that I told him how much I didn't want to lose him, which I think helped a lot.
I don't know if any of that will help, but it's there if it will.
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