Posted by alexandra_k on November 29, 2005, at 15:40:28
In reply to Re: D*mn » fallsfall, posted by Dinah on November 29, 2005, at 14:06:45
Okay. So I haven't been following the psych board for a while. I haven't read anything about T3 since... Well... Since the first time you went to see her.
But when you were posting about that I thought 'oh, she sounds good'.
Irreverant.
I think that is the word for it. It can be great because it can defuse the situation sometimes. It can be great when mixed with humour. But the danger in it... Well...
> It makes me want to hurt myself.
Hmm.
> It makes me want to hide everything about myself, not just the things that I decided to hide after T2.Yeah. I understand. Sometimes when we need kindness and acceptance and a gentle touch... Irreverance... Well I used to get the urge to punch my t in the face... And that was the t that I really liked too.
> Apparently all of me is unacceptable if I reveal it. So I just won't reveal it.
(((Dinah)))
I really do think that falls is right...
TELL HER.What I managed to figure out with my t...
Was a code.
For me it was 'back off'.
I'd just have to say it really gentle like...
And that meant
F*CKING BACK OFF LADY!
Useful for when she was too irreverant
Or was pushing me too hard
Or if I could feel my emotions escalating too much
Or whatever.Its strange...
But she was able to switch into 'caring mode' really very well.
And that would defuse the situation
And we could gently talk about why I was feeling upset.
But yeah, I think it is important.I guess from her pov...
She might not realise how very strongly you are reacting to her style...
She might pick up that you are a little bit upset or something...
But I really don't think...
She would continue with that if she knew.Can you try and sort this out??
Because irreverance can be a really very great theraputic strategy. And some people can pull it off better than others. And... I imagine that you could find it really very terrific IF USED APPROPRIATELY. But... It will take a little bit of time (and discussion) before she learns how to read you a bit more. How you are likely to respond. How far she can push you.
But it is about... Trying to propell you foward, I think. To genuinely help toughen you up from those kinds of comments / criticisms. Useful IRL because some people will say those kinds of things...
But too much... And somebody is going to get hurt, yup.
poster:alexandra_k
thread:583331
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