Posted by allisonross on November 15, 2005, at 10:18:13
In reply to Mothers - should they have known?? ***Trigger***, posted by jammerlich on November 14, 2005, at 23:15:42
Hi, sweetie: Just one more thought. You may want to confront your mother, if you thught she might be honest with you (only you know how she is). You might also want to write a letter to her.
The term: Restorative Justice is the most valuable words i ever learned from my t. Meaning: This is what you did; this is how it made me feel. SO empowering to someone abused for a lifetime (me).
Is your father still alive? he should also get a dose of "restorative justice"
I called my mother up (original abuser), and asked why she didnt do anything about what happened to me.
her responses were (the usual, denial, etc) pathetic, and my heart was pounding, etc.,
but I knew I needed to do it, to help heal that little child (me) who was never protected, and only abused. I told her I "forgave" her, although I was doing that for myself, really. I didn't want to have any regrets.
I believe it is necessary in order to heal, to confront our abusers
(with restorative justice); otherwise we are the ones who suffer. That's backwards.
Hugs, Ally
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