Posted by laterain on November 10, 2005, at 18:23:28
In reply to Re: graphic discussions... **trigger**, posted by B2chica on November 3, 2005, at 8:59:50
you are NOT NOT NOT responsible--you were a kid--and if we're going to put this in DBT terms (I am currently going through DBT myself), I think what "fits" here is shame that is unwarranted--and the way to get past that is to face it, I think (probably not describing it as best as I could) but you need to hear from someone else that you were NOT at fault. I was molested by my brother also and it wasn't rough or forceful, it was coercive but I know now that he had a lot of emotional/mental power over me and so it was not my "fault". but speaking it and hearing someone else say that it's okay/that it wasn't your fault is something that I think is helpful. just my two cents . . . Rain
> after re-reading this, i can't help but feel responsible- i mean if he kept his clothes on and he had ME take off my own clothes???
> i just don't understand all this. i can't seem to wrap my head around any of it.
> and i feel scared.
> b2c.
>
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