Posted by B2chica on November 8, 2005, at 12:11:23
In reply to How much, how soon?, posted by Dinah on November 8, 2005, at 9:43:11
i have a lot of cr@p in my basket and my friend new i did (but she didn't know specifics). she told me it's best to just throw it all up and let the T help you sort through it all.
NOW, i have absolutely very little to no trust. once i found a T that i liked on a personal level, i tested him with little bits of info that thought divulging, i put up my barracade so that no matter what his reaction it wouldn't hurt me and then i could find out his reactions to things and guess how he might react to worse things.well, in two months of seeing him 2 to 3 times a week i threw it all up. i was scared but i just didn't care anymore, i HAD to get it all out.
so i guess what this means for you is:
1)why do you feel you disclosed too much to T2, was it your feelings that were disturbing or hers?
if they're yours you should discuss, not the items themselves but your feelings about disclosing them and at the rate you did.
if their hers, i think that if she had a bad or disturbing reaction to them then she can't be that great and you should consider looking around.2)you must if nothing else, be authentic. that's the only way a really good T can help you. do it for yourself. take it slow, leave out some detail, talk around subjects, but please be authentic.
3)as for not disclosing certain things again. well, sometimes they don't need all the detail. my T always says i can tell as much or as little about an incident that i feel comfortable with, and to go at a rate that's comfortable for me. i agree greatly and feel you have the same rights.
4) and NO they are NOT supposed to be judgemental, however, sometimes there's a bad egg in there and they are. they are human, and not all were A+ students.
best wishes
b2c.
poster:B2chica
thread:576676
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