Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2005, at 17:45:17
In reply to Re: Wan smile » Dinah, posted by Tamar on November 7, 2005, at 14:44:02
I'll let you know what she's like. :) I have an image of her as a well groomed, but not trendy, woman, five to ten years older than me, with a no nonsense but not unkind demeanor. I don't think she's going to be effusive or in any way intrusive - more reserved. She appears to have a good sense of humor. I'm interested to see how close I am.
My therapist thought my "colleagues" here at Babble who thought I'd connect better with a male therapist might be right, because of my experiences with my mother and with the girls in school. And I have to admit that my first thought on meeting either of these women was whether they were the sort of girl who would have teased me unmercifully in middle and high school. And attractive well groomed women tend to intimidate me unless I know them. But I think that may be something I should work on. ?
On the other hand, I've thoroughly disliked three male mental health professionals, so it may not be totally gender related.
It felt sooo good to have someone understand me that well. I am so genuine with him, because it's his job to put up with me. Even my husband hasn't seen me as genuine as I routinely am with my therapist.
He didn't *feel* quite like himself. He usually has a real quality of stillness that he was missing this time. That's when he mentioned the need to reconnect. He felt fidgety. Which is odd, because he always fidgets. But usually he manages to convey stillness and receptivity even when he's physically restless. This time his physical restlessness seemed to go all the way down.
lol. I remember one of the topics was how much better I see him with my eyes closed. We were talking about the fact that T2 seemed to disapprove of my closed eyes and soft tone of voice. I don't understand how he can manage to say the exact same things she said without my being offended. I guess it's because his statements are made in the context of an accepting well-established relationship, while hers weren't.
Maybe there should be some sort of rule about how many sessions there need to be before a new therapist comments on stuff like that.
Can you tell I'm a bit nervous about meeting T3? T2 hurt. :(
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