Posted by Tamar on October 28, 2005, at 19:35:45
In reply to New everywhere, posted by Gee on October 28, 2005, at 18:49:35
Hello, and welcome to Babble!
I can see why you say you’re new everywhere. New T, new place, new school… It’s a lot to deal with!
Five sessions isn’t much from a Uni T. Especially if you’ve been working in therapy for three years – even on and off. Of course I know nothing about your circumstances, but it does sound as if things are pretty rough, and perhaps the Effexor isn’t helping as much as it might. Can you see a p-doc? And I know you’re not interested in long term therapy, but maybe you shouldn’t rule it out altogether…
Starting Uni is really hard. Everyone talks about how much fun it will be and how exciting it is, but often the first semester is all about getting used to the new culture and people. It’s hard enough for students without mental health problems, but it’s especially hard for people whose health is already somewhat compromised.
I noticed that you said you wanted to tell your family that everything will be OK, and I wonder whether in fact you need *them* to tell *you* that everything will be OK. If things are rocky at home you probably feel a sense of responsibility to them. But at the same time you need support and perhaps it’s hard for you to be offering support when you need it yourself.I remember that six weeks after I started Uni (also about 10 hours from home) my mother was hospitalised with severe depression and my father was working abroad at the time, leaving my younger brother to fend for himself. I felt very conflicted, and I didn’t have any mental health problems myself at the time. But I remember how helpless I felt.
I imagine you’re at a crossroads now between your family role and your new adult role. It’s a complicated place to be, and it takes a few years to get used to it. Making decisions is inevitably difficult. But I would suggest that the best thing for you might be to focus about your own life and health, and offer your family some love from a distance.
However, I know nothing about the situation, so please don’t take anything I say too seriously. But do take your own health seriously! And if you want to talk about the session with your new T we’re here to listen.
I hope you manage to work it out in a way that you feel comfortable with.
Tamar
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