Posted by fairywings on October 23, 2005, at 18:43:24
In reply to important-could be misunderstanding » fairywings, posted by rainbowbrite on October 23, 2005, at 17:46:03
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> sometimes people think they are actually helping by staying away and not being pushy about staying friends. Sometimes it seems like that is what the person wants. really, Ive done this before. I ended up insulting someone but my intentions truely were to back off and give the person space while they were struggling. Your friend might have said that neighbor comment because she felt you pulled away from her??No, she was my best friend. I guess i should try again with her, but she seemed to be pulling away from me because she sensed I was having problems, and she's not very tolerant. If that's what she needs that's fine.
> I have been through some of my own crap but for some reason when it is someone else who I dont expect to be going through stuff I dont always understand what they want/need even though Ive been there. if you want to mend relationships just call them up and say I miss what we had ive been feeling whatever.....filli n the blank. Sorry I came in at this part of the thread so I hope I havent gone off on a tnagent.No, not at all, I appreciate your thoughts. I think some of it is that ppl are busy with their own lives, and some of it is that some of my friends don't understand the social anxiety. So it's easier just for me to have aquaintences.
thanks again rain,
fw
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