Posted by gardenergirl on October 21, 2005, at 23:42:36
In reply to Re: Chapter 2 » fallsfall, posted by Annierose on October 21, 2005, at 21:34:48
Hi,
I've mentioned this to you, but I thought I'd post it (maybe I posted it once, too?) At any rate, my T also said that he thinks that talking about my therapy with others or posting about it might "bleed the transference" as in reduce the intensity of it or dilute it.I get his point. I really do. And the therapy we do is a lot about different transferences.
But I also know that I'm in a place now where I am starting to recognize transference reactions and even to interpret them before I get to my session. So I wind up telling him about what I experienced and what I think it means. I'm not always right, of course. ;)
But still, I do think there is a place for Babbling about therapy. Lott also thinks that women (and men) in therapy benefit from normalizing our experiences by talking to others.
I'm with annierose, too. If I read a reply and it doesn't really resonate with me, well, I consider it, along with others, and let go what doesn't fit. I do that with what my T says in therapy, too. Or at least I try to.
And falls, just one little thing to pick on, it's okay if your reaction to his reaction feels like it's unkind to you. It's honest. You don't pay him to be kind to him. Of course you also don't pay him to be your whipping boy. But it's good to share your reactions even if they might hurt him. Hmmm, as I write that, I see how it might be related to the criticism transference...you don't want to do that to him...what you experience?
And that is a great example of how I benefit from Babble. As I type things out, my brain is still associating, and I can get new ideas, etc.
Okay, back to feeling tired and dull. Flash of brilliance ha! :D is over for now.
I do think I understand to some extent your conflict about this.
(((falls)))gg
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