Posted by Tamar on October 21, 2005, at 18:37:40
In reply to Counter-transference : a novel /, posted by fallsfall on October 21, 2005, at 18:00:36
Just one question: To what extent does his problem of your discussing therapy with other people constitute counter-transference?
I think he’s made some valid points. It’s true that we’re never there in the room with other people and their therapists. But when people are upset they need to talk and therapists aren’t always there 24/7. So people talk about it with their friends, or they come to places like this.
To be honest, I think Babble is a good place to thrash these things out, because almost inevitably someone will reply and say, “You need to talk about this with your therapist.” And with that encouragement, hopefully, the client will feel able to raise the issue in session. Friends who haven’t been in therapy may be less astute than Babblers!
One further thing: even if he admits there was some countertransference in his response, it probably doesn’t alter the fact that you experienced what you call ‘critical transference’. And perhaps you need to continue to talk about that, and he needs to listen. (He’ll probably hate me for saying that…)
Just my two cents!
Tamar
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