Posted by Tamar on October 21, 2005, at 17:10:45
In reply to Re: My session » Tamar, posted by Annierose on October 21, 2005, at 15:37:43
> Are you proud of me for starting this conversation? You personally know how I am struggling --- but I haven't gotten all of it out yet.
Oh yeah! Very proud of you!
> But I was brave.
You certainly were. Good for you!
> After she told me how much time I had left, I said, "I want to get back to our conversation on daydreams and fantasies." I think I heard her turn to a new sheet of paper to start writing notes. And of course, when I mentioned her husband in the daydream (not a sexual situation at all --- a dinner party) that perked her ears up even more. I surprised myself. As we only had 9 minutes (thankfully), she was understanding and interested in these thoughts of mine, without making me feel uncomfortable. And then she asked a typical psychologist question, "if I met you at a dinner party, why wouldn't I like you?". I told her I hated that question.
I’d have hated that question too. Maybe she thinks you have low self esteem and you tend to think people will dislike you? (I can’t imagine anyone disliking you… but self esteem isn’t always a rational thing…)
> I'd rather her tell me why she would like me. Then she asked, "if I lived on your block, would we like each other?" (or something like that). If we didn't have this prior relationship, I think she would like me the more she got to know me. She's more conversative than I. But she has a good sense of humor, she's smart, a working mom, etc. etc. ... I would like her.
She sounds very likeable!
> But as you know, there is more to share.
Well, as Scarlett O’Hara said, tomorrow is another day!
Well done, Annierose. And I’m glad she’s being understanding!
Tamar
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