Posted by fairywings on October 21, 2005, at 15:36:06
In reply to Do I have to go back?, posted by Annierose on October 20, 2005, at 16:28:28
> I have left all 3 sessions this week totally confused. Well, I left today's session angry. Yesterday I realized the confusion part. She was suggesting I try a different approach in talking with my father, if that would make me feel differently. I felt I was hearing mixed messages --- don't talk with your father vs. it must be your fault, try a different approach.
I don't agree with her advice to talk to your father (even if it's a deathbed thing) considering how you feel about the whole thing, and I don't know why she'd suggest it.
I agree you should talk to her tomorrow, but your anger is justified. You have every right to be angry. I don't think her position would be defensible unless you'd expressed some regrets about not talking to your dad, then she might encourage a different approach, but that's not the case.
Considering what she said aobut your dad not being retarded etc.., and her response to your example using her daughter in your place(which was very good btw), she might as well be doing therapy with your dad. She's not though, she's your T, and it's incredible to me that, even after she said you're the one she cares about, she went back to her original position.
I think I'd get my thoughts together, and tell her again how what she said was so unthoughtful and hurtful, and not let her continue to let you feel you're wrong, you're not. She's wrong, and what she did stinks.
fw
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