Posted by B2chica on October 14, 2005, at 12:03:30
In reply to Re: i want a take back. » B2chica, posted by Tamar on October 14, 2005, at 11:39:02
>> I started by talking about fear and shame. Just the feelings; not the events that went with them. And then when I talked a little about the events I went into rational mode and talked about it as if it had happened to someone else. It was a little while before I could describe what actually happened to me.
i really like this idea.
> What you’re saying here at babble is that you’re afraid to talk about it. So maybe that’s the place to start. Maybe talk about the fear of talking, and the fear of giving your experiences a name: perhaps about the fear that saying it out loud makes it seem more real (if that’s how you feel).thats exactly how i feel.
> I started by feeling angry that even if they didn’t intend to hurt me, nevertheless they did hurt me. That even if they wouldn’t have called it an assault, nevertheless I felt assaulted. I felt angry that they could have been so careless about my feelings about what they did. And eventually I came to realise that in fact there was no way they could have thought it was consensual… but that took time.this is really good stuff Tamar. you are Very insightful. i'm gonna print this off and take it with me.
thank you very much. i'll write next tuesday to say how it went.
b2c.
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