Posted by B2chica on October 12, 2005, at 11:42:57
In reply to The same old circle, posted by cricket on October 12, 2005, at 11:06:29
((((((((Cricket)))))))))
so sorry you had such a cruddy experience in school. i think your adolescent part has EVERY right to be angry. and it's obvious that your T would be like the teachers you encountered, he's older and an authority figure. i'm confused why he would get defensive about this...i do want to let you know that something similar happened to me, they had what's called 'tracking' in my school and there were 3. track 1 were college bound and successes. track 2 were may go to vocational college and track 3, forget about them. (not to mention if you looked at the population, all track 1 came from wealthy families, track 2 middle income and track 3...poor -coincedance? think NOT)
i was in track 2. i wanted to take an anatomy class and he argued that basically i wasnt smart enough and that my bad grade in that class would bring my average down even further. (i won, took the class and got an A :))
anyway, my so called advisor also basically said i should forget about going to college, find a nice guy and get married, settle down. i swear he was about 102 years old.
years later i have my B.S., finishing my M.A. and work in a high tech setting. so that old man can shove that attitude straight up his @@@.
i still have VERY strong hate feelings toward those teachers, i never got to read any really neat books (that almost everyone else in this country has read) because of the english classes they put me in.
and that's why to this day i HATE standardized testing, and believe in the multiple intelligence theory.sorry to go off about me. but i don't think your young one is wrong in feeling angry and oppressed by authority figures. and for your T to constantly say "i have a lot of work to do" quite frankly that's his problem not yours. if he didn't want WORK, he Definately should NOT have chosen psychology as a profession!
Please take care of yourself and i'd revisit this issue with your T. tell him you thought he was acting defensive and why he felt that way, that that's just how your young you felt, and has every right to feel that way.
(and maybe it's time for HIM to say byebye)
best wishes
b2c.
poster:B2chica
thread:566033
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