Posted by Tamar on October 12, 2005, at 5:35:38
In reply to How My Therapist thinks (update), posted by daisym on October 11, 2005, at 19:51:33
It sounds like a hard session, but a good one.
I really think your therapist is right: sometimes things need to be told over and over and over. And it’s not easy. But I’ve felt it too… Sometimes I simply repeated things I’d already told my therapist, just because I needed to say them again. Sometimes I still need to say them (seven months after terminating)… so I do it in my imagination. It’s not as good as real therapy though.
And I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not really about repeating the same thing: every time we tell it it’s slightly different. Every time we tell it there are slightly different nuances. And as therapy progresses we sometimes come to see things slightly differently, or notice things about past experience that we weren’t entirely aware of before… and then it needs to be told again.
When I was doing short term therapy I didn’t want to ‘waste’ precious time repeating myself, so I didn’t do it as often as I’d have liked; I wanted to cover as much new ground as possible. If I ever get around to doing long term therapy, I think I’d like to talk every session about the most painful stuff, for a while at least (for as long as I can keep it up). Well, that’s my current fantasy… maybe I’m deluding myself…
I’m glad you feel connected and safe with him again. It sounds like a good place to be.
Tamar
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