Posted by ClearSkies on October 11, 2005, at 7:38:23
I have been seeing this T since June, and we are working well together. She's older, has her batty mother running the front desk (which means you're not quite sure if you have an appointment when you *think* you have an appointment), and she cuts me no slack. She is who helped me confront my addiction and suggested I try an outpatient treatment programme. This was the best thing I've ever done for myself besides getting divorced from my first husband.
I think I am so used to my mum being so passive - OK, I mean she didn't give a poop one way or another - that having someone actually express an opinion about my actions and behaviours is quite alarming. I know that I am overly sensitive, and I'm working on that "take what you need and leave the rest" thinking, but I'm having a hard time filtering her words.
We don't argue. it's more like I listen to what she suggests (not agreeing with her), then go home and decide that I don't think she read me correctly or that she misinterpreted my words during a session. I have this great ambivalence about therapy. Not at all certain, given my past poor experiences, that any T I have worked with so far really knows what they are doing with me. I should add that my previous experiences with therapists have included 2 who decided to close their practices not long after I began therapy with them. This therapist appears to have health issues that worry me about her long term committment with me.
Should I work through this feeling and continue to try to make our relationship more clear? Should I cut and run? She is the only T to have helped me in such a concrete way so far, but I don't care for her style nor her personal beliefs. Not that she forces her beliefs (religious mostly) upon me, but I am used to a far more neutral person sitting across from me.
Any thoughts? Thanks...
poster:ClearSkies
thread:565597
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