Posted by rainbowbrite on October 7, 2005, at 9:53:13
In reply to Re: Therapy Experts!!?? » rainbowbrite, posted by Dinah on October 7, 2005, at 5:05:24
> For instance, my therapist finds long silences comfortable and assumes I'm reflecting. When in reality I'm thinking something like "Why isn't he saying anything? What is he thinking? Well, I'm not going to be the first to say something. I said something last and now it's his turn. Say something d*mnit!!"Yes, that exactly how I feel d*mnit!
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> But over time I've learned that when I start thinking those thoughts to instead say "Your silence isn't what I need right now. Could you comment on what I said, or even change the subject please?"
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Hey I like that, thanks. I could say something like 'your silence isnt what I need' Ive been afraid of what the response will be. But I have to say someting or this will go nowhere.
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