Posted by Tamar on October 5, 2005, at 17:54:14
In reply to How to get over the feeling of not being likeable?, posted by orchid on October 4, 2005, at 18:09:29
Well, I like you. And I know other people here like you. But I suspect that no matter how many people say they like you, you find it hard to believe. And even if everyone you know tells you they like you, you might still have difficulty believing it. I think it’s like JenStar said: you need to like yourself in order to feel likeable. (((((Orchid)))))
I hesitate to ask but… have you thought about doing more therapy? I know you have a lot of serious issues in your past and while you may have dealt with the most problematic of those issues, perhaps this feeling of not being likeable is related to some of your past experiences. But maybe it’s difficult to find appropriate therapy at the moment.
I can tell you that one thing that helped me was thinking about Jung’s ideas about the animus and the shadow. I tried to think about aspects of myself that I don’t usually like to consider part of my personality, and I found that trying to accept those things was helpful. It’s still an ongoing process, though.
I hope you find something that works for you.
Tamar
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