Posted by JenStar on October 5, 2005, at 1:26:53
In reply to How to get over the feeling of not being likeable?, posted by orchid on October 4, 2005, at 18:09:29
First of all, Orchid, I like you very much here on Babble! :) I think you're quite likeable. I think you're interesting, warm, and thoughtful.
About convincing yourself...I don't know. It's hard, I know! I think maybe the problem is that YOU don't like parts of yourself, maybe (?), so that's where the conviction comes from that you are unlikeable. People say this often can develop in childhood, especially if someone suffers abuse in the home -- after being abused either mentally or physically, a person just feels unworthy.
To fix it...you might have to delve into why YOU don't like parts of yourself, or parts of your past (if that's in fact true) and understand that in order to "kill" it.
I also think that it's important to develop self-worth and self-importance by treating yourself with respect at all times, by respecting your own body and mind, and doing things for YOU - things which make you happy, fulfilled and content as a human being. If you're always giving in to what other people want, it's hard to be happy with that, and it could contribute to a nagging sense of dissatisfaction.
You ARE likeable. I hope you can see it! :)
JenStar
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