Posted by Tamar on September 19, 2005, at 16:55:04
In reply to Re: stress **potential trigger*, posted by B2chica on September 19, 2005, at 9:41:11
I agree with fairywings.
I also get totally stressed if I have to do more than two things on one day. It's so easy to do things other people want us to do, and then we don't have the energy to enjoy the things we actually want to do.
No doubt your mother really wants the whole family together, but in an ideal world she’d understand if you’re not feeling up to it or if you’re not feeling well enough. If she doesn’t understand that sometimes people don’t feel well enough for social occasions, or if she isn’t sensitive to your feelings, then maybe standing up to her will help her to understand that your feelings need to be considered.
But it's OK to say no. It takes practice, particularly if you tend to think your feelings don't matter. But once you start saying no it gets easier. If it’s too hard to say no on this occasion, then perhaps you might plan in advance to say no to the next one.
Tamar
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