Posted by greyskyeyes on September 16, 2005, at 14:42:36
In reply to a little more coherent, but I need some help!, posted by fairywings on September 16, 2005, at 8:54:41
fw,
I haven't posted in a while, busy with work and in general nothing constructive to say anyways, but this really struck a chord in me. I've been going through a similar situation in my therapy. I've identified at least 3 separate voices in myself: an angry and violent teenager, a snotty, dismissive pre-teen who is protective of her younger sis, the third persona who is somewhere around 2-3 and pre-verbal. I also started wondering if I was DID... my T has assured me I am definitely not DID, but that these personas represent coping styles learned at each age. I remember at the end of one of our harder sessions, involving the little girl, my T asked what I would say to her if I could... I thought about it for a while, then said that words wouldn’t mean as much to her as actions would… but that I would hug her, hold her tight and whisper that everything will turn out OK (and take her out for ice cream!). And my T smiled. She said that that was the point of this, that I have to learn ways of reacting to myself that are different from how I was reacted to by my parents. And that, in turn, would – eventually – help me to learn to cope differently when faced with the situation. Does this makes sense? I guess the point is, that by treating yourself the way you should have been treated to begin with, you overcome the dysfunctional coping methods you were forced to develop.
I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to turn this into something about me… but I’m hoping maybe this will help you. I’ve been there, I understand, and I feel for you. It’s hard as hell. Hang in there and it’ll be better in the long run.
greyskyeyes
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