Posted by muffled on September 15, 2005, at 17:30:52
In reply to Re: Crying? » muffled, posted by kerria on September 14, 2005, at 20:32:54
> Hi Muffled,
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> Crying is way overrated. i cry for almost the whole session and it doesn't make me feel any better.
> What happens is that i think of therapy as a place of comfortless despair when i remember crying in front of T and he does nothing. And T says nothing to help. i've actually told T that i resent crying in front of him because he doesn't help and i remember him looking at me in such a strange way, not knowing what to say.
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> The hard thing is what will your T be able to say or do to comfort you? There's nothing so sad and alone as to cry in front of someone who never says, "It's going to be ok" or "It's not so bad" or anything at all to help you feel better. i even think that my T lost touch with how much it hurts inside to cry. He's heard it all.
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> Crying in therapy could make you feel resentful towards your T if he or she never helps by saying something that comforts.
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> Muffled i hope that you have the freedom to cry if it helps (((safe hugs)))
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> take care,
> kerriaThanks Kerria for taking the time to care when you are struggling so. I guess you haven't found a new T? or sorted out stuff with the old one? I hate to say it but your old T. sounds awful. Man if I cried in front of my T. and she just sat like a stone, thats it man, I'd go off and freak on her. How dare she just sit there when my guts are all over the floor. But I haven't cried yet. Almost did but I ran out. I came back in a bit once I was cooled out. So I have no idea what she'd do? Life is sure freaking confusing isn't it? People sure as heck are.
Thanks kerria. That was a real nice post. Muffled.
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