Posted by kerria on September 14, 2005, at 20:32:54
In reply to Crying?, posted by muffled on September 10, 2005, at 23:19:52
Hi Muffled,
Crying is way overrated. i cry for almost the whole session and it doesn't make me feel any better.
What happens is that i think of therapy as a place of comfortless despair when i remember crying in front of T and he does nothing. And T says nothing to help. i've actually told T that i resent crying in front of him because he doesn't help and i remember him looking at me in such a strange way, not knowing what to say.The hard thing is what will your T be able to say or do to comfort you? There's nothing so sad and alone as to cry in front of someone who never says, "It's going to be ok" or "It's not so bad" or anything at all to help you feel better. i even think that my T lost touch with how much it hurts inside to cry. He's heard it all.
Crying in therapy could make you feel resentful towards your T if he or she never helps by saying something that comforts.
Muffled i hope that you have the freedom to cry if it helps (((safe hugs)))
take care,
kerria
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