Posted by daisym on September 7, 2005, at 23:54:22
In reply to Madhatter's T(ea) Party » daisym, posted by Poet on September 7, 2005, at 19:44:57
"you left upset yesterday. Really upset. I think I missed something. I think I didn't get how much pain you were in...I wasn't helpful, was I?"
This was 2 minutes into the session. I told him even I didn't know how much pain I was in until that moment. And I didn't figure out until later that I wanted comfort, not therapy yesterday. And I should have said straight out that I wanted him to be on my side about an issue, not be rational and neutral.
He said sometimes comfort *is* therapy. And that he was MY therapist and he hadn't forgotten that.
We talked a lot about my feeings of being disconnected and how I feel he has been less available to me. I said I knew it was me and not him but it still hurt and was scary. Especially since he was going on vacation in 10 days. He asked me if I was upset with him for going and I said yes. I didn't want to be but I was. He said it was OK, he'd come back anyway. :)We also talked about the difference between missing him and separation anxiety. There are interesting differences between the fear that he has disappeared and I can't find him or feel him and knowing he is out there but not with me.
All in all, a much better session. Thanks for lettng me tantrum last night. And for all the tea and sympathy. I'd love to have a babble "Mad-hatter" tea party. Wouldn't that be fun?!
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