Posted by All Done on August 19, 2005, at 2:40:16
In reply to Re: How common is it, really? » All Done, posted by Dinah on August 17, 2005, at 9:00:05
> Yes, I think most clients do, when you factor in that most clients see their therapists twelve to sixteen sessions and don't have time to let their guard down and get attached.
True. My hair stylist (it always boils down to the hair, doesn't it?) went to therapy for a few months and he said he liked his T, but she helped him and he moved on. He looks at me funny every time he asks if I'm still in therapy and I say yes. (Then again, he seems a little oddly interested in my therapy.)
> But I think those of us with unhealthy attachment styles tend to become attached a lot more intensely and less securely. Which makes sense, since that's probably one of our core issues underlying a lot of problems in our lives.
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> Not that I'm saying you're one of those. I am. But you've always struck me as someone who has the ability to attach appropriately. Not that I want to jump to conclusions. I know that a lot of people are able to present a very good front.How do you define appropriately?
I don't think I had a healthy relationship with my mom (who attaches completely inappropriately) and my dad just wasn't around much.
I don't feel like I attach appropriately.
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