Posted by Dinah on August 18, 2005, at 20:19:17
In reply to I'm afraid my therapist is going to dump me., posted by madeline on August 18, 2005, at 18:39:07
My therapist always says that we can get through anything as long as we decide we want to.
Have you talked to him about your fear that he might terminate you?
Can you forgive him enough to work with him productively? My therapist took something I said once, and made it icky and sexual. He apologized, saying he was trying to make a point and exaggerated for effect, and he shouldn't have done it in that way. I haven't forgotten exactly. Whenever I say something similar, I preface it with "Now don't make this into something icky, but..."
I know my therapist doesn't want me physically, and I'm reasonably sure he knows I don't want him physically, so the remark was forgiveable.
That was a stupid remark your therapist made. But if he's never been inappropriate in five years, and you don't have any sense that he wishes to be inappropriate, and you don't wish for him to terminate you, it doesn't seem totally insurmountable.
Does it seem insurmountable to you?
My therapist made a few remarks over the years that he wasn't sure therapy had been good for me, or he wasn't sure that he had the skills to help me. I found it very upsetting, but I usually responded by making a compelling case for therapy being good for me, and he being good for me. Can you make a compelling case?
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