Posted by orchid on August 17, 2005, at 14:37:44
In reply to Re: I have worked out of my transference completely, posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 17, 2005, at 8:42:31
Thanks everyone !!!.
Some of you asked how to overcome. Here is what helped me.
1. Get a new therapist, who is experienced in helping out people with transference.
2. Be completely open to the therapist on what you feel. Even if they dismiss it lightly, keep bringing it up. That will help.
3. Be honest to yourself on what you are feeling and identify the full feelings. Don't be afraid to visualize or experience the full power of the feelings. In my experience, once you visualize all the feelings to the maximum extent, then it begins to lose control over you.
4. STart questioning your feelings yourself and with the help of your therapist. Identify what the feelings really are about - is it about your dad/mom/old lover/friend/a guy who hurt you in that past etc. Identify similarities and identify patterns of emotions. It is difficult to do it alone - only a skilled therapist will be able to guide you through it.
5. Start giving to yourslef what you want from your therapist, or find other ways of getting what you want.
6. Identify the mistaken coping mechanisms you have developed and rectify it. In my case, I had always been a child in a sense, and kept looking for "approval" from an authority figure. And that is what I missed the most from my psychiatrist. 7. It is difficult to say how to grow, but with effort and looking into yourself, and meditation, and with the help of a therapist, and with babble's support, you start overcoming your issues slowly.
IT is very difficult, and it takesn immense efforts and support from other people. But hang it there and work it out. It eventually helps.
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