Posted by 10derHeart on August 2, 2005, at 13:01:25
In reply to Re: what *it* was (long) » 10derHeart, posted by fairywings on August 2, 2005, at 7:22:45
> Wow 10der,
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> You are so blessed to have a T/p-doc who is so caring. Wish they were all that way.
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> FWI know, I know. I often think of it as an embarrassment of riches, because it's been both ex-T. and current T. And I try to tread carefully as to what and when I post about it. I know maybe sometimes it can be "too much" to those who are having a less-than-ideal experience....and I'd rather hurt myself than upset one precious Babbler here... :-(
But, I've been told it could instill hope in those reading that there *are* Ts willing and able to deal with something so tough, highly important and emotional as termination can be, without messing it all up, or sort of "running away."
I think....maybe Ts that actually "don't care" are few and far between. I think it's more they are only human, poorly trained and/or supervised, and just lost when it comes to dealing with this phase. My ex-T. said he can't recall spending mch time at all on this when being trained as a p-doc. He also said even now, it's tough for him to find much written that would be practically helpful -it's too clinical amd too much from the T's POV...
Under these conditions, some T's it seems, don't try at all to work through all the feelings openly (too scary for them; their own issues are geting in the way?) or they fall right back on rules and textbook stuff and lose sight of that client as a person. It's sad and awful for us on this side of the room, when that happens.
Hopefully, the especially good ones, like my ex, cause a ripple effect in those they deal with as they before the old, wise T's. That should help some in the future.
PS - I've been gone a while, never had the chance to say I love your new posting name. It's beautiful!
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