Posted by molly_a on August 1, 2005, at 11:42:47
In reply to Re: Is it genuine? Or even okay? » molly_a, posted by AuntieMel on August 1, 2005, at 11:24:04
> Well, first off, welcome to babble.
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> It seems that there is something going on that is making you uncomfortable, right? Otherwise you wouldn't have thought to ask.
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> Are you worried that he isn't 'real' or are you woried that he might be overstepping boundaries?
I'm not sure. It was just kind of alarming to me to find out how strict boundaries usually are, or "should be". And I figure that, if physical contact etc. were healthy in a theraputic relationship, there wouldn't be so many rules against it! But at the same time, there probably is a difference in boundaries with a 14 year old, than there is with a woman who is say, 25. Does anyone happen to have any websites where I could read up on that?I do wonder if he is "real," or if he is just using a tactic if you will, to help me feel loved and understood. Have you ever heard of a T doing that?
And Miss Honeychurch, I'm getting absolutely no bad vibes from him, in fact my intuition is telling me that it is okay. However, my intuition is probably pretty nonexistent. lol. Anyway, my point, I guess, is that there is absolutely nothing sexual involved. He is a loving man, and I trust him enough to know that he would never intentionally hurt me. But I am also careful enough to be open to recognizing a problem if one does come up.
Thanks so much. I appreciate your insight.
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