Posted by daisym on July 28, 2005, at 11:08:05
In reply to Re: Wanting a mommy (long) trigger » daisym, posted by Dinah on July 28, 2005, at 10:48:39
Don't you want to believe that you can have the freedom of choosing what you will and won't do, to be yourself completely and still get nurtured from a partner in a grown-up way?
I'm struggling with this, I'm not sure I believe it either. It might go back to what I wrote a month ago, about my little girl feelings being more acceptable to my therapist than my adult ones. I believe children should be taken care of, nurtured, loved and kept safe.
Or maybe, it is about being loveable at all. Maybe I think noone can/will take care of me because I'm not worth loving. *I* don't matter, I never really did. The things I can do and did do matter. Not me. And that is a very, very painful concept when you include your mother in this group. And your husband.
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