Posted by All Done on July 24, 2005, at 10:04:49
In reply to Re: I had to cancel my session this morning :( » All Done, posted by Dinah on July 24, 2005, at 7:16:58
Oh my, Dinah. I think a lot of what I said I probably shouldn't have applied to Babble, too.
The last thing I wanted to do was suggest that I don't ask for or get enough support here. I also don't want anyone to think they ask for too much. I'm actually pretty comfortable with the amount of support I ask for here. (I wish I could give a little more sometimes, but that's another story.)
I think (and forgive me if this doesn't come out right) I'm talking more about the deepening of relationships that you mentioned. Most of my friendships (and I'm really talking more about face to face) are pretty superficial. The one friend I had that was the closest to me hasn't been around as much as she used to be and I'm really missing her right now.
I actually have been talking about some of this in therapy, but I guess I didn't really connect it to my lonliness. I've been missing the intellectual stimulation I got with this one particular friend. Now, when I do talk with my other friends, I'm realizing that it's mostly about day to day activities or in a lot of cases, because they are stay at home moms, it's more about pretty basic child rearing activities. It doesn't even get into the "good stuff" like *why* is my three-year old suffering from separation anxiety now when he was fine a month ago or *why* does he go on the potty at daycare but not at home. (I know...some of you are saying, "*that's* the good stuff?" :P)
I'm feeling like I have many acquaintances but few real friends. So, I appreciate what you said about sharing myself with others. Maybe I should just try a little at a time to open up with some of them. It's just so hard for me to think of that sharing as a gift and not just me being a royal pain in the *ss.
You are very sweet to say I'm enough for anyone. I admire you, Dinah, and that means a lot to me coming from you. I'm working really hard on believing I'm good enough. You think it will come when I believe I'm good enough for myself? Sigh.
I'm always glad to hear from you, too. No matter what it's about. I think maybe a lot of us need to be reminded from time to time that this *is* a place for support. It's okay to both give and get it and I don't know anyone who's keeping score. Although, I do owe you big time for keeping me here in the first place. You were the first off-board contact I had and I think that makes this all so much more "real".
Thanks, (((Dinah))).
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