Posted by messadivoce on July 23, 2005, at 14:12:37
Augh, I am triggered right now, and only because my mom and I were discussing who was going to be invited to my wedding. My dad is really influential in the community, and she was saying there are lots of people we should invite because of my dad's business relationships. Which is fine, a majority of these people I don't really know, and that means more gifts, right?
I told her though that I wasn't inviting this certain family, no matter what politics were involved. Their son assaulted/groped me in high school and generally sexually harrassed me. He did stuff to everyone but no one took him seriously or maybe they were afraid of his family. I chose not to tell everyone at the time because if I had told my parents, they would have gotten mad at him and his family, and then his family would have blamed it all on me and talked about it all over town, and I still would have had to go to church and school with this guy.
My mom is upset that I didn't tell them when it happened, although she understands why. This isn't an issue that I have addressed in awhile, and thinking about it now just makes me want to crawl under the covers and sleep, even though I have lots to do this weekend.
I told my male T about it, and he looked at me with such compassion and understanding, and told me it wasn't my fault, which I believe now, most of the time.
I just feel like planning my wedding is going to be this huge land mine that I'm not ready for. And don't advise me to just "invite you who you want" because that's really not realistic.
I think I will have to find another T just for the reason that I'm planning a wedding. :-(
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