Posted by messadivoce on July 23, 2005, at 1:28:32
In reply to the psychology of first impressions - anyone?, posted by Jen Star on July 22, 2005, at 20:34:50
Haven't read the books. But I do think that my first impressions are pretty accurate. I can't tell you "how" I know, I just do. I knew right away when I was 12 years old that I had met my best friend for life. I knew when I was 17 that I had met my future husband. I knew that the guy my friend was dating was a slimeball (and he proved himself as such later).
I listen to tone of voice, watch eye contact, ways of wording stuff. Other than that I just have a gut feeling.
As for my T, I disliked him immediately the first time. I thought he was arrogant and over confident. Which turned out not to be the case, but looking back on my therapy, I think that those were his weaknesses, at least the overconfidence. So I was barking up the right tree, even if transference took over completely even at the first session.
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