Posted by Jen Star on July 22, 2005, at 21:38:42
In reply to My first impressions are always wrong !!! » Jen Star, posted by pinkeye on July 22, 2005, at 20:43:46
hi pinkeye,
but at least you take time time to review the impressions and adjust them. I think some people never do that, and just stick with the first one!I'm wrong about people sometimes, too. For example, when I first met my best friend in high school, I thought she seemed boring. Later, when I started talking to her, I found that she was great and we had a lot in common. Luckily I was able to get past the 1st impression, or I would have missed out on a great friend!
I think I sometimes give people more of a positive "first look" if they remind me physically of someone I like, and v.v. It's hard to get over those kinds of associations.
There is this one woman that works in the perfume dept. of a large store near me where I like to shop and browse. Now this woman looks JUST like an older version of a friend with whom I've had extreme difficulties. (Do you remember when I was posting last year, I think, about an overly-clingy and aggressively friendly friend?)
Anyway, the perfume woman reminds me so much of that friend of mine whom I don't like very much. Her face, her hair, and her mannerisms are SO similar! I know she's not related b/c that friend had no relatives in this city. BUT - my impressions of the perfume woman are tainted b/c of the strong reminder to that ex-friend. She even sounds like her when she talks! It makes my spine wriggle in irritation.
I KNOW this is petty and unfair to the perfume woman, yet I can't seem to help it. And I'm a perfume junkie, so I often stop off at the perfume area on my way browsing the store, so I see her every time I go in there. And get irritated every time, b/c it makes me think of that annoying bad friend of mine. And then I think about how I'm acting shallow, and how unfair it is in general...and my thoughts go around and around. Fun!
hmmmm...
JenStar
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