Posted by LittleGirlLost on June 28, 2005, at 12:39:30
In reply to Needing a mum/dad » LittleGirlLost, posted by littleone on June 26, 2005, at 21:16:54
> I think sometimes I can give my husband more attention when I cut off T thoughts, but I don't like doing that. I feel the need to cling to him, not cut him off.
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> Is that something like what you experience?Littleone,
Yes, I think you seem to understand. (Thank you!) I too, would be looking for a "dad" if there wasn't this strong maternal need making everything else seem so insignificant. I had a male pdoc once, years ago, and the fantasies were unbelievable! Both as a dad and a husband! But on some level (a very young level) I really feel like all guys are yucky so I don't need a dad, but can't understand why I can't have a mom. (Bear with me, I feel weird writing this since it doesn't make much sense!) Don't get me wrong, I wish I had a "good" father figure also, but for some reason, the mother seems more important to "me". Actually, it wasn't until a few months ago when I was watching a friend interract with her dad, that I realized that I did deserve to have that with my dad too. So much of my focus is on the mom, that I forget I was actually entitled to both.
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