Posted by shrinking violet on June 27, 2005, at 19:34:28
In reply to someone else calls T, posted by looking4hope on June 26, 2005, at 22:12:20
> sorry for all the questions tonight :(
--that's ok, don't apologize. :-)
> another thing i was wondering:
> has anyone ever had a friend/family member call your T because they were concerned about you?--not exactly, but a (online) friend emailed my T twice because she was concerned I was suicidal. She was right, but I played it down to my T.
> what was the outcome?
--The first time, I was seeing my T for a session that morning anyway, so my T told me about it, and asked me whether it was valid. I played it off as my friend projecting her stuff onto me, etc. She told me not to be angry with my friend. I was at first, but mostly b/c she hadn't told me she had done it, and that she had bothered my T. The second time, my T was out of town, so she had the director call me. I was going through a phase of not answering the phone, so my T then told him to come by my apartment to check on me, which he did, and again I told him I was fine (I wasn't). This time I was more furious with my friend, because she did it AGAIN without telling me, and I was afraid my T would think I was somehow manipulating the situation. We never discussed it directly; I think by that time my T figured I was crying wolf since it was very close to my final session with her. I wasn't...I had a plan, a date set, etc, but that's beside the point.
> did your T talk with them? (especially with HIPAA regulations.)
--no, my T said she couldn't email her back or talk to her in any way since there was no release in place for her to do so. My T allowed me to use her computer to email my friend so she would know that my T received her email and was talking with me.
> did your T tell you that they called?Yes, both times I found out my friend emailed her (I wish I had heard it from my friend though!).
> did anything happen as a result of the call to your T (ie, did you T call you to see if everything was ok?)The first time I was seeing her that morning anyway, and she spent most of the time trying to figure out whether my friend's concerns were valid ones, and my tap dancing around the issue and trying to reassure her. The second time, as I said, she was out of town so I didnt have direct contact with her, but the director contacted me and told me my friend had emailed her again, and he pretty much did the same thing my T did, trying to assess whether or not I was suicidal.
I hope this helped? I hope everything is okay with you...(sorry, I haven't yet read the responses to this post, so I apologize if I'm missing something that was already said).
sv
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