Posted by happyflower on June 24, 2005, at 22:55:40
In reply to Re: Feeling better after I sent it » happyflower, posted by pinkeye on June 24, 2005, at 22:27:56
> > What you have said makes sense. Though, I don't think I am capable of burning it and moving on from my ex T. I really don't want to .. I want to be able to hold him in good thoughts for ever.
Pinkeye, is he in good thoughts now? Do you think moving on means that you don't think good thoughts about him? Do you think you can more forward, forgive him, and have good thoughts about him that will stay with you?
One quesion I would like to ask you, I hope you don't take it wrong or get mad at me. Do you think that maybe holding on so tight to your ex T and being upset and not letting him go is a way to avoid dealing with your other problems?
Do you think moving on is holding a grudge against your T? I don't hold a grudge about my mother, I am doing it to keep my me and my family safe. Isn't a grudge holding anger against someone? I have no anger, I feel nothing, I am indifferent, I have moved on. Even my T sees this, he said I made a huge shift a couple of months ago and am looking at my present problems that maybe was taken a back seat to the past problems. I feel like I have healed this part in me.
I know your T meant a lot to you and it hurts very bad. How did you handle past relationships in your earlier life? Has a boyfriend ever broke up with you or something simular. How did you get through that? Maybe it might help to do the same thing. Maybe I have no idea what I am talking about. I just want to help unstuck you and this hold your T has over you. What can I do to help? I think you have made wonderful progress today, I want to help you, what can I do?
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