Posted by Dinah on June 24, 2005, at 19:50:06
In reply to but . . . but . . . but, posted by Aphrodite on June 23, 2005, at 21:03:37
I had the same reaction when his mother died. My problems seemed so trivial that I was sure he was thinking, "My mother just died and you're complaining about that?"
But I'm pretty sure he wasn't, really.
It also felt kind of bad when Daddy was dying and then died, and it rather clearly brought back the memories of his time with his mother.
Sometimes it's hard to do therapy with someone you care about. It was easier back when he told me that his girlfriend had just left him and I thought "And why are you telling me this?"
But on the other hand, therapy is much more productive with someone you care about.
I think it's fair for you to tell him what you're thinking. I think I did, if I remember correctly. I think I told him outright that it was hard to talk about what seemed like unimportant things in comparison to what was happening in his life. It took a few sessions, but I think we came to a reasonably comfortable understanding.
Although then I felt bad about bringing my stuff to contaminate his stuff.
Drat, it's hard sometimes.
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