Posted by Tamar on June 23, 2005, at 6:26:00
In reply to Tragedy in T's family, posted by Aphrodite on June 23, 2005, at 6:00:51
Gosh, that’s really tough for everybody involved.
I can understand that you want to take care of your therapist at this difficult time in his life. And I’m also aware that taking care of them isn’t something therapists expect us to do.
I can also understand that you don’t want to be a burden to him. On the other hand, I think it’s quite common for people to handle life’s tragedies by trying to keep everything as normal as possible. Your T might actually prefer to keep going to work to give himself a few hours away from the grief, and then encounter his grief at home later.
I think you should allow yourself to be guided by him. If he continues working, then he probably needs time at work to keep himself stable. And perhaps you can express your care for him by carrying on and being yourself. Whatever you’re working on together at the moment, you should probably continue. I imagine that helping him maintain a sense of purpose through his work would actually be very valuable to him.
Tamar
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