Posted by pinkeye on June 22, 2005, at 15:26:00
Dear Dr,
How are you? I hope things are fine with you.I have always given you positive feedback so far in the past 3 years. I always thought very highly of you till this date. But I am now going to give you a feedback which you may not like to hear from me. Forgive me if this is not what you expected from your first long term patient. I know you went out of your way to try to help me and I know you had exceeded all my expectations being a psychiatrist in India. But there are things you messed up very much, and I wanted to let you know it since it ended up hurting me so very much.
You completely messed up my termination.. The way you terminated me - sent me an abrupt email one day about terminating me and vanishing - was really cruel and horrible. I wouldn't have done it even to my worst enemy. To even think about doing it to your patient, and knowing how vulnerable she is to this kind of termination is beyond any cruelty I have ever imagined you to be capable of. Maybe you thought this was the right thing to do, maybe you got fed up with me, maybe you thought I was a nuisance, maybe you were not taught in India about all these transference and how very powerful it could be - but you could have put little more effort in trying to understand me - you could have had a tiny bit more empathy and tried to make it little less painful for me instead of cutting me off so cruelly. I didn't mind about the termination - only that you did it so abruptly. I would have given any client of mine adequate notice, and made sure that they healed from it and got enough strength go on their own before letting them go. I would atleast given them 3 months of notice and allowed them to contact me and I would have written back adequately during that time, and atleast allowed minimal contact after termination. You didn't do any of that.
You really need to learn about emotions, you really need to learn about transference. Luckily you did it to me, and I was in a much more informed state.. I wonder what anybody else - a lesser informed patient of yours would have done. It would have created complete wreck in that person. Please do not become a therapist again, and do not treat women patients without understanding more about transference, and how powerful it can be. You are doing more harm in the name of helping.
I hope you take it in the right sense.. I really wish you would learn more that you would use this to understand about things more before attempting to treat further.. You are good in logical understanding, but you really need to pick up emotional depth and understanding.
poster:pinkeye
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