Posted by Aphrodite on June 18, 2005, at 11:20:27
In reply to Anxiety, posted by Jazzed on June 17, 2005, at 20:55:41
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> BUT, when I read how much pain everyone goes through, and how difficult termination is, and how deep your feelings run. I just don't want to go through that! I don't think I can do that! I've had feelings of transference before and it took my mind away from my life, away from my marriage, away from my prioirities. I don't want to go through that pain and anxiety again. It scares the heck out of me. I'd rather have a T that I don't like quite as much as a person, but can respect as a T, and someone's who is a bit abrasive, than go through the pain that I hear some people have to go through. Does that make any sense at all?
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>Maybe we should start a thread about the good things about connection and attachment. There are many, but you're right, it's scary. I think it all depends on what you want. If you want objective input, I see nothing wrong with that and going to a T with that style. It's whatever works for you, and no one here will criticize that. However, if deep down you would rather have a psychodynamic sort of T with a connected relationship and are afraid of it, you may want to think about taking that risk. You could even ask this T about the therapeutic relationship. Find out his take on it.
Good luck, and I wish you luck with whatever you choose!
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