Posted by Daisym on June 16, 2005, at 10:26:38
In reply to I'm NOT in love with my therapist, posted by cricket on June 16, 2005, at 9:05:41
Cricket -- you aren't defective. I think we've all wondered if we were "right" for therapy at one time or another. It is an individual journey for everyone and I think attachment ebbs and flows based on what you are working on and what style your therapist has. I don't think everyone develops huge, overwhelming need for their therapist, they get their needs met from other people. I think it looks that way here because we are a group that sort of finds Babble when we begin to examine our strong feelings about therapy and go looking for support and validation that we aren't going a little nuts, forgive the expression.
I think what you said about knowing you need therapy is interesting. There is a part of you that sees the value in the work you are doing, even if you don't feel really emotionally attached. It is totally fine to work with him, to like him but to not long for him between sessions. It is probably easier on you.
Try to remember, no right or wrongs here. If you are happy with what you are doing, stick to it. I know from your posts you have been making progress in the trust area, and were considering bringing more of you into sessions. How is that working out? Are you able to let the little ones talk yet?
I really do know how hard that can be.
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