Posted by happyflower on June 15, 2005, at 17:49:00
In reply to Happy lower, posted by Jazzed on June 15, 2005, at 16:44:03
I am back, sorry it took so long to get back to ya all, I know you were just waiting in suspense! lol
Well I had a great session! It even went over about 15 minutes ( which almost never happens).
I asked him about the whole critical issue. Asked him if I can just be me, during our time, and he said of course. I told him I am trying to be less critical overall, but I needed to say a lot, and didn't want him to think I am a bitch or something. I think he was surprised I said bitch, because I almost never swear! lol Well he went on to tell me that being critical isn't a bad thing overall, it keeps ya safe and less gulliable. But he said there is a balance that I need to work on. He said we would practice this in "our relationship". He said we can work on how to think less negative and relate those negative and critical statements in a less blunt way so I don't turn people off to me.
I asked him if he was comfortable talking about religion with me. He said yes, he said sex, religion, and politics are the taboo subjects in society, but these things need to be discussed in therapy sometimes. I was worried I would offend him because I tend to do that. But he said that he is rarely offended by anything, but if he did get offended, he would tell me, and we would work it out. He said talking about how I am offending others might be a good learning thing for me. But we didn't talk about anymore about this, I told him that I wanted to discuss it more later, that I had other things I wanted to talk about.
Well last session he talked about a "real movies" that teach us things about life and how there isn't many of those movies these days. Well I asked him if he knew of any good movies, and he recommended Harold and Maude which came out in the 70's. It is a great movie that teaches you a lot about how you should live your life. I watched it last week and I identenfied with one of those characters in it. Another simular more current movie like that now is Garden State. Well I talked how I used to be like a free spirt and lived for the moment in my early 20's, on how I didn't even think about my abuse or parents, and I used to have fun and was happy and NOT CRITICAL.
Well during the week, I realized that my negative attitude may have something to do with my current problems more than the past. I gave him my very honest list of things, including how I feel about my marriage, and what that OBGYN did to me. Then I ripped it out of my journal and threw it away in his trash, so in case something happened to me on the way home, it would become a legacy or hurt anyone. I felt I reached a new point in my therapy today. We talked about so much more and I feel like we connected big time. I smiled at him when I left and he was already smiling first! It feels so good to come away from therapy feeling better. Being honest, being accepted and understood. I have more to talk about if ya aren't getting bored by now, maybe i should record our session and let you hear how great he is. But I need to rest my mind, and process what happened today. I feel so much better! :) Happyflower is much more happier now!
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