Posted by happyflower on June 11, 2005, at 15:42:43
In reply to Transference Sucks, posted by Susan47 on June 11, 2005, at 15:00:32
(((((Susan)))) Sometimes I wonder if transference is just a protection for the therapist. Because they have to keep objective, to help us, and if they thought we were having real feelings for them, it would confuse them more. Plus since it is unethical for them to have a relationship with us, wouldn't it be safer if they thought what we were feeling was not real feelings like in real life? I am not sold on the transference thing especially since some of us know a lot about our therapist. In fact more than you might know than going on like the 3rd or 4th date with someone. Plus I think our T's are being who they are, maybe we only see the good side, but isn't that how all of us are when we meet someone for the first time? When you date someone you really don't know who they really are and everything about them at first. I think transference is just a label for our feelings to make them less real for the therapist. Feelings are feelings to me. I think oh, you are just attracted to your T , because you need a daddy is bull puckey. I guess I am just not sold on the transference theory yet. Sorry guys, I know I am being stubborn about this.
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