Posted by Daisym on June 3, 2005, at 20:12:47
In reply to Daisy and others....., posted by messadivoce on June 3, 2005, at 13:14:46
I know what you mean about what a hard day that is. I suspect this year will be harder than last.
I've been "lucky" I guess -- my dad lives on the opposite coast so I rarely see him on Father's day. I usually just send a gift and a card. Nothing too personal. The times he has been here I make it more of a family situation so I'm not alone with it.
Most of the time I focus on my husband. He is a pretty great dad most of the time.
The other thing I wanted to say is that superficial coping is totally OK. So is staying in bed all day with the flu. I think sometimes being authentic is over-rated. I'm not sure my dad deserves my real self -- it is pretty fragile right now and he would just bruise me. So I make nice and we all get a long and when we go home, we talk to our spouses about how F-up the rest of the family is.
I told my son today, "families are so complicated." He said "Yeah, but you aren't supposed to know that when you are still a kid."
:(I wish I had wiser words.
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