Posted by pinkeye on June 3, 2005, at 13:25:53
In reply to Daisy and others....., posted by messadivoce on June 3, 2005, at 13:14:46
Maybe once you tell your father about the past problems, you don't have to keep bringing it up again? If you can let go, then so be it. You don't have to tell it again and again to be truthful.
I tell my father openly about his mistakes now. Not in all details - but atleast I have told him the gist of the mistakes he has made.
He denies many of it, and accepts some of it. But that has given me some peace. Atleast he knows that I know.
I also have a very good relationship with him now, and I feel free to be affectionate and loving towards him even if I now realize he was not very good. But I don't feel like going and telling him he made a mistake all the time. Father's day is a happy occasion, and since you have a good relationship now, why don't you celebrate it?
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