Posted by pinkeye on June 3, 2005, at 17:35:47
In reply to Re: Btw, I got some closure I needed from my new T » pinkeye, posted by Susan47 on June 3, 2005, at 17:05:13
I identify with your post - especially the part about somehow it being fulfilling. I also used to think that - that somehow I felt very peaceful to talk to him. Maybe not even peaceful, but kind of at home. I think that was the hardest part to let go of. I felt he understood me.. but maybe I was wrong. Maybe he didn't really understand me.
But maybe that is because I had the transference about my dad towards my T. Maybe what he spoke sounded like what I have heard from my dad all my life. But in a very big way, they are both different and I knew it from the beginning as well. My father was all about being selfish and arrogant and he thinks he is the king of the world and he knows everything. And he is possessive and jealous and insecure. But my ex T was none of that.
But in real life, I don't really like people who are not childish and innocent. I really only like people who are very childish and innocent. And my ex T was not childish at all. And he was not innocent. So I wonder if I would have liked him if I had seen him as not a T.
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