Posted by Tamar on May 30, 2005, at 6:02:44
In reply to How does one be a good friend?, posted by Angela2 on May 29, 2005, at 15:23:42
> This is something I'd like to go over in therapy but haven't yet. I have no idea what she's gonna say. I think I'm skipping next session anyway. But I was wondering...how does one go about making friends and keeping them?
> -Angela2Sometimes it's easiest to make friends in small groups. Is there anywhere you can find a group of six to eight people who have something in common? It's usually possible to get into a small group at school or work or church or places like that. And you get to know a few people at a time. Sometimes groups can seem quite closed, but if the people in the group are worth becoming friends with they'll be willing to let you in. If a group doesn't want to let you in, they're probably not people you would want to spend time with anyway.
When I meet people I think would be nice to get to know, I usually suggest meeting for coffee or something like that. Sometimes they say yes; sometimes they say no. I try not to take the nos personally; I assume they're just too busy to make new friends or something like that.
As for keeping friendships: I think friendship requires effort and sensitivity on both sides. And you need to be yourself!
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