Posted by sunny10 on May 18, 2005, at 16:00:29
In reply to Re: Hi! ****might trigger****** » Dinah, posted by Jazzed on May 18, 2005, at 11:53:28
I'm sorry to hear you had to go through all of that. And i'm very happy that you've found Babble and can now talk freely about these things.
One thing really jumped out at me, as a mom with a child with ADHD. It sounds possible that your son may have inherited your ADD. A disruptive child certainly can make a home difficult- and a marriage too, as the parents usually wind up arguing about what to do about the child's behavior. Plus there is exhaustion- I was WAY too tired to even THINK about sex! I can only assume that the same things are true for you at this point.
I live in PA, USA and I went to the county's Intermediate Unit for testing on my son when he was only a little older than yours is now. I didn't want to at all, but he had already been kicked out of three daycare centers and the fourth was threatening to throw him out, too, if we didn't agree to have him tested and medicated if they were correct. Unfortunately they were correct. I didn't want to put my child on meds. I fought it every which way I could think of, but by then I was divorcing and HAD to work and there were no grandparents to watch my son. He HAD to go on the meds.
I have to say that they work. I don't LIKE it, but they work. My son learned to play with others, to sit in his place on the mat when it was reading time, no longer darted out of the classroom to go running unattended down the halls. And it didn't affect his abilities, either. As a matter of fact, when new computer software came into the center, the director would come get my son to install it on their computer! He is a smart kid (proud mom moment) and I hate that he has ADHD and that we have to medicate him for it, but he has a chance at a future now that he never did before.
If you think this may be true of your sweet, disruptive tyke, get him tested, even if it's only for your knowledge and you can stay at home and work with him through the therapies that the county's wrap-around services provided to my child (they went to daycare with him, then to the first half of kindergarten, too). A mom can always do a better job, but if you're like me and work, there are those who will help you with this.
For yourself, it sounds like you now have your own emotional situation firmly in hand and are dealing with it. I had to do that, too. Welcome aboard the train!!! Hope you jump off sooner than I!! I'm apparently a slow learner...
By the way, I usually tell all new people that my opinions are strictly my own and you may feel free to think I am blowing all of this out of my b*tt !!!
smile-
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